Um... I didn't know that we had to do family reflections on our blog so I wrote it on some paper, but I'm going type it up now. Sorry it's going to be a lot of reading for you.


Lesson 1
If someone were to describe you family character, what would he or she say? What character qualities are high on your family list?

If someone where to describe my family character, they would say we are a nice family that cares for their child and their child is smart and kind. But every time that our family does something with other families it's like putting on a show or and act to make ourselves look good, but in reality, our family is like a fireworks show. We constantly explode!
The character qualities that are high on our family list are respect to each other and having everyone do their 'duty' as part of the family. My parents don't respect me at all because they yell at me for 90% of the time that I'm with them. Also the duties of our family is that the adults work, and the child does his homework, BUT all my dad does other then work is read the news on the computer and my mom just watches movies on the computer so they always have arguments over that. THEN whenever I am resting or stretching for a while they yell at me because they say I'm not doing work.

Lesson 2
What are you family goals? Is there anything you would like to accomplish together?

Our family goals are buying a house(mum and dad), getting a Mercedes Benz convertible(dad), and getting a grand piano(me). Those are our goals and from what you can see, there isn't anything that we want to do together.

Lesson 3
Principles are timeless and lead to success. What principles does you family live by?

Our family lives by the principle of good attitude, but we don't do it half the time. We all try to be nice you each other, but it really doesn't show because yelling at each other doesn't feel like maintaining a good attitude, but we do it anyways.

Lesson 4
Your Point of View: Talk about a family situation in which someone had a limited POV, and discuss what led to the POV shift.

There was once when we had an argument over something I can't remember, and he had the POV of a adult and I had the POV of a teenager, but none of those arguments ever got resolved.

Lesson 5
What are you EBA's like with your family members? Healthy? Bankrupt? What small acts of kindness can you do to start making some deposits for each other?

I think that the EBA with my family is pretty much bankrupt since my father hasn't been very nice to my mother since they were married, he hasn't been nice to me. And everything is vice versa so I don't think we've made any good deposits because everything nice that we have done together has been very scarce and also the things that we do are very small and never last over a day. Sometimes I try ot make myself very nice and self directed but sooner or later there is an argument that ends my good mood. So I think I will try that tecnique again, but try to resist the temptation to get angry again.

Lesson 6
At home, when is your family highly reactive? How can you help each other be more proactive?

Whenever we both want something, but there is only one, or when we want to change something in different ways but there is only one thing to change. So basically every single time we disagree with each other we end up being highly reactive.
I will try to make the people who are having an argument not to just look at the problem in their own POV, but instead look at the problem in a completely unbiased and logical POV.

Lesson 7
Listen this week as a family, and catch each other using reactive language. Be proactive! Talk the talk of someone with self-control.

....okay! =D

Lesson 8
Take initiative. Make "what can I do about this?" your question of the month. Get you family into "influence and initiative" mode.

uh...okay! =D

Lesson 9
Decide on a family code word or phrase to remind each other to count to 10 before sinking into a "reactive rant zone." Post your Press Pause phrase on you fridge.

um...okay! =D oh... didn't work! D=

Lesson 10
Discuss your family's future; what does it hold for you? Are you going to have the relationships that you want with each other? As a family, are you making things happen, or are you on autopilot.

Well, in our family's future plans, my future is bascially studying until university and then I can do whatever I want. So since it's all been planned out by my parents, I'm fored to be on autopilot.